"Female toplessness is legal in a lot of places in the US (although not where I live), and I’d be meeting the letter of the law with a couple of Band-aids. But I have a gut feeling that if I go anywhere that there are people—and particularly anywhere there are children—nobody’s going to be too happy about my Band-aids. The enforcement is social; women just don’t go around topless in the US.
It bothers me because it’s unequal, but it also bothers me in its implications: that my body is inherently sexual, and a man’s body isn’t. It feels like men are being viewed through the first-person lens of “it’s nice to feel the sun on my skin, and I don’t mean anything by it” and women are being viewed through the distinctly third-person lens of “it’s inappropriate for me, a heterosexual man, to see her sexy parts.” It ignores the experiences of people who are turned on by male chests and somehow manage to contain themselves when they see one."
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The Pervocracy: My boobs want to be free. (via sexisnottheenemy)
I have no desire to go topless anywhere, but I thought this made good points about perspective, and about how female [identified?] bodies are considered inherently sexual even when nothing sexual is going on or implied.
(via feministdisney)
Regarding the first part about the law not mattering, I present an accurate Octopus Pie strip.
(via feministdisney)
If anyone wants to join an avatar forum site, avoid the HELL out of Avaricia. I joined when the place was first made and was a loyal, donating member until just now.
For the past year or so, our admin has been away. Hasn’t been doing anything, hasn’t even left a message. Today, she did, she left an explanation and a fauxpology, where all she did was say, “hey, I was busy!”. I told her ages ago that I was willing to work with her as an artist to bring the site back to life. She ignored me and did not take up the offer.
At the same time, I also told her she needed to tell everyone where she was and that there was a spam attack on the site. She responded to that IMMEDIATELY. At least, the spam part. She did ignore me saying she shouldn’t all-out abandon us.
I told her I was not going to offer again and that I wasn’t impressed by the apology and I got several paragraphs of garbage in a PM about how she couldn’t tell me if she’d accept or not right away (read: months and months ago), along with a snide remark and a “I don’t care what you think of me!” When I responded that I knew full well she didn’t care about me and the site, I was banned.
In a really petty move, darling admin also sent a PM to me before banning me, one I can’t read …because she banned me. I guess she had to get in the last word??
Another friend who isn’t banned says that the fauxpology and everything I’ve ever said that’s slightly negative about the site is gone.
Apparently, if you don’t kiss ass, you ain’t worth shit.
I have a busted A.C. my dad won’t fix for a while and so I have to have all three of my windows open. And it really doesn’t help at all. My computer must be 3000 degrees, too. I feel like touching this thing will burn me. >.<
And every three seconds, someone’s screaming on the streets or a siren’s going by. I am TRYING to watch Bones, people.
Frustrated me.
